When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.
–William Arthur Ward
Mr. Ward has some wise words again. It sounds easy enough but I personally find myself at times picking others apart. That’s not easy to write. It makes me sound like a not so nice person.
However for example there are a few people in my life that I allow to make me feel very imperfect and sometimes their words get me in an uproar. I will think/say “who are they to tell me how I should live?” and “where do they get off?” And after that comes judgment. I may begin to pick them apart since they so easily picked me apart. I will say to myself and more dangerously out loud to others (in hopes to get them to side with me of course) “so and so said this to me, can you believe that?” “I mean really, they don’t even do this or that and they are basically sort of hypocritical and so on and so forth” and then what happens? Well, I begin to feel awful. I begin to feel guilty and I just really want to ask for forgiveness because by judging and complaining and speaking out loud without action is just as bad as what they did to me. So I’m learning. Still learning and it’s not easy and I’m not confrontational by nature. So I say nothing and instead let it brew until I turn black inside. It’s not good for me, it’s not good for them. The best thing really is to separate, step away from anyone or anything that brings you down. Instead gather with those who lift you up, and in return you will lift them up. It’s easy to find the best in them and bring out the best in ourselves if together we just love. We have the control of who we surround ourselves with. Some people think it’s LOVE to tell you what you are doing wrong. I believe that should be left up to God. I answer to Him and nobody else. So my advice to myself…is to just love, and walk away from the negative environments. It’s up to me. Do I stay and feel horrible or do I walk away and just love?