I would be a big dope if I didn’t talk about the story of us on our 21 year anniversary. It’s big news. I rolled out of bed this morning and said to my guy, “happy 21 years!” and he wished it back. Then I was about to sneeze by the back slider door, he tried to direct me to sneeze outside to the back patio but I was so distracted by him directing me to change my sneeze that I couldn’t sneeze anymore and then he cracks up and points down to the outside back slider worn-out door mat! And below is what I saw. It would have worked so perfect had I sneezed in that direction;)
Do you all remember last years anniversary card, check out below! He is a true, true romantic and that’s pretty awesome being that I’m on the receiving end.
See! He’s a vandal too! We make a great team.
We are not experts on marriage or anything like that but we have lasted 21 years and to be honest, it has not always been a walk in the park. Marriage is hard. It’s really hard work and we both work at making it cohesive and pleasant. We strive to be examples of love to our children because to me it’s the most important example they have for their future relationships.
Her Advice in spaghetti version:) I will share a few of our secrets with you in regards to how our marriage has had success to date. We allow each other to be our own people. Which means, we dress ourselves, we buy our own clothes and we even pack our own suitcases when we travel. He loves me for who I am and I love him for who he is and we are very different but we know that we compliment each other. We don’t call each other names, we don’t yell and scream in front of the kids. We do have disagreements but we have learned how each other reacts in turbulent times. Motorcycle man needs space and quiet and when the time is right then I talk to him about it. I use my patience gift. He knows that I work best with positive reinforcement. So he compliments me, he encourages me and he is my biggest supporter. It has been a really long process trying to figure out how we tick. I’m really quiet and often hold in my thoughts I have had to learn as the years go on that I can tell him things that are on my mind. I have noticed when I do share my deepest thoughts he is receptive and willing. Presentation is everything. He always kisses me hello and good-bye and we work with each other every single workday but still he will kiss me goodbye, knowing he will see me at the office 30 minutes later. We still hold hands. We cook together. Rich will say “I’m normal” I will say “nope, you’re not normal, you are exceptional” The feeling is mutual both ways. It’s like we hit the love lottery or something. Above all else we love the same God and when things are good we give God the credit and when things are bad we look to God for our strength. I sometimes feel guilty because things are good, really good. We have friends who may not be as fortunate so please don’t take this as a brag session. If you could see each day in our 21 years, you would see a lot of imperfection, a boat load of mistakes, and lots of hurt too, tears, sadness and anger. It’s all there. We have the complete package. But those rough times built a stronger love because we made it. We made it through those growing years and not just survived but by the grace of our God we thrived. I’m blessed and I look for many more years with this guy. I believe he was hand-picked for me before I was ever born.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Treat her like a princess
Laugh. a lot.
Share the responsibilities
Speak kindly to each other
Respect each other
Doing small things makes a BIG difference
Listen. Even when its boring.
Aw. Congratulations! 🙂
thank you
A BIG happy day to you both!!! Im sure you will have an awesometime out!! I am so happy you are my sisnlaw & so much more. You guys do balance each other! It hit me yesterday why i am so compelled to freely give to all children, its because He always had something for me & it did make me feel so special, it is the little things. LOVE
I’m happy too that I have you for a sister. Rich has always been one of the MOST giving people I know. I don’t think he has a selfish bone.
Happy Anniversary, you two beauties. From Seabright we send our love.
Fishgirl and Fishboy oxoxoxoxox
hello fishgirl and fishboy, another amazing example of true love.
This made my day. I always forget you and Cristin share the same anniversary. I love seeing how you love each other and put each other first. An inspiration!
I love that I share an anniversary with Cristin, it was one of those really cool facts to find out about each other.
so sweet. congrats. you two are a good looking couple!
thank you so much
Yikes Tracie! This blog made me tear up…what a great tribute to your marriage. May you both have many more wonderful years together! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Love you, Mom
Linda “Believe you can and you’re halfway there”.
Mom, you are so sweet. We were talking last night about how thankful we are for the lovely trips you and dad have sent us on. Both being in our top memories and feeling so fortunate that we have been gifted such beautiful things from you guys.
Good, good advice! You two make a great team and I am so blessed that I get to be part of your family 🙂
Your nephew is pretty awesome and thank you so much.
Wow, happy 21 years! I loved every bit of this post, and love hearing/learning lessons from people who have made marriage work for so many years.
“We don’t call each other names” – This is a great bit of advice. Unfortunately, this isn’t an example I grew up with and I’ve tried hard in my relationship to always be kind, even when I’m angry or upset. Name calling can be so hurtful when it’s from a loved one.. so thank you for that reminder 🙂
PS – Your husband is so romantic! I love the messages he leaves for you on your anniversary.
thank you always for stopping by.
this makes me smile. good advice all around. 🙂 Happy Anniversary. xx
Thank you Sam
Wise words… Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!
I bet you and music man have some good advice too!
You guys are the sweetest! Love the his and her’s advice. Happy Anniversary to my favourite couple, though we’ve never even met! 🙂
Dean, that’s pretty awesome to say! Thank you.
So darn sweet ❤
Thank you. I love how you and J started the roll.
Well this is just about perfect. Marriage is so hard, and it takes way more than just love. This just might be my favorite post ever!! I feel blessed to know such a wise woman. xoxoxo
That means so much coming from you Cathy. Thank you.
Congrats on 21 years!
It is a delight for me as one who has spent the decades as a single one to have so many friends who married young and in love, and are now decades in and still in love. Thank you for sharing your story, it is really beautiful.
Just got a chance to read🎉❗️
💐💖💐God has,is and will continue blessing
Mr.&Mrs West……
Love the pics
Keep them coming?
I’ve lagged behind again and missed some of your posts. Marriage is really hard isn’t it. But really great too. But it sounds like all you goods outweigh any bad by a mile. I love that you get each other and know when to give space and support one another. Even when its boring. 🙂 Haha. That is so male. Congratulations and Happy Anniversary. You guys are kind of amazing. 🙂
Happy Anniversary!